Forgiveness is a part of any ending—and it is a necessary step for moving on. It is important to remember that when you harbor ill feelings toward another, you keep them in your own self and your body takes the brunt of this emotion.
Personally, I believe that we are all connected. We are all one. But even if you can’t get into that notion, you can understand on a very basic level that you are polluting yourself with any feelings of resentment or guilt that you hold.
Neither of these experiences is pleasant. They turn your thoughts sour, color your day, and restrict your actions. You are no longer available to give or receive love when your mind is closed by either resentment or guilt.
Notice I keep saying resentment or guilt. In my experience the two usually go hand in hand. You can’t be mad at Bob for the way he treated you, without also feeling disappointment at yourself for accepting it. Believe me, I know this first hand….
I forgive ______, is the best mantra I’ve found for this work. It’s simple, it’s to the point, and you don’t even have to feel it for it to start working.
This is an excerpt from From Heartbreak to Wholeness: 12 Steps to Healing from Break-up. Stay tuned for more excerpts as Aimée walks you through the steps. Go to www.spreadingblessings.com to get your free ebook copy.
Tags: abuse, divorce, forgive, forgiveness, heartbreak, life healing, love, personal, relationship
August 16, 2008 at 5:22 pm
This entry is so beautiful. Clearly God put your blog in my path this morning; your words are a perfect message of Divine Light with my first cup of coffee.
Thank you.
Katie