I heard Sonia Choquette, one of my favorite intuitive teachers and authors say once that we each need at least four sources of support in our lives. That means, when the system crashes, or when one of those sources goes down (like your girlfriend, for example) you still have places to turn. I liked that idea. It’s like the saying, “don’t put all your eggs in one basket.”
But more than divvying up your eggs, hearing her say that reminded me that we all need support. We all need good friends with whom to share our lives and experiences.
As I heard the Dalai Llama point out once—humans are innately social creatures. If we were meant to be solitary, an infant would be able to support itself at birth. The fact that this is not so simply proves we need each other. We need one another generally when life is ticking along. And we need each other especially when life is getting us down.
Have you ever had the experience where you were worrying yourself to death over something and in an instant of compulsion you told your friend about it? Then, while sharing your fear, you discovered it was quite irrational, and even altogether laughable? I have. I have actually started sentences in total seriousness and finished them giggling when I heard out loud for the first time, just exactly what I had been thinking. Hearing the worlds spoken burst the bubble of their powerful lock on me and exposed them as the ridiculous notions that they were. Contrary to what I had supposed, these were not deep and unalterable truths, but were absurd creations of my mind.
This is an excerpt from From Heartbreak to Wholeness: 12 Steps to Healing from Break-up. Stay tuned for more excerpts as Aimée walks you through the steps. Go to www.spreadingblessings.com to get your free ebook copy.
