Even if you believe your relationship was a complete failure, it taught you something. I believe that we often make “mistakes” for a reason. First of all, you were doing the best you knew how to do at the time. Secondly, by making those choices you learned something valuable.
Remember Brett who I mentioned in the first chapter? He was the man who cheated on me. Despite the fact that our partnership was the most traumatic relationship I’ve ever been in, I actually came out the other side of it with a whole host of pivotal lessons. The knowledge that I gathered by going through this experience literally forever shaped my life for the positive.
QUESTIONS
Ask yourself the following questions:
- What will I never do again?
- What was the best part about dating so and so—and would I like to experience that again?
- What do I know now that I didn’t know at the onset of this relationship?
- In what ways have I changed for the better?
- What techniques or ways of relating empowered me in the relationship?
- If I am perfectly honest with myself, at the end of the day, what do I know that I learned in this relationship? (Go with your first answer.)
This is an excerpt from From Heartbreak to Wholeness: 12 Steps to Healing from Break-up. Stay tuned for more personal stories and techniques to help you learn from your break-up. You can also visit www.spreadingblessings.com to get your free ebook copy.
